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(Have you ever felt this way?)
A MOTHER’S GIFT
 In your opinion, what is the best gift you can give your children? An education? Good nutrition? Demonstrating honorable values? Teaching them how to succeed in the world? What about comforting and reassuring them when they’re sick, or hurt, or emotionally upset?
Needless to say, each of these is vital. But to receive any of these treasures, children must first have a well-adjusted, emotionally-balanced parent or guardian. In short, an emotionally stable mother.
Every mother’s responsibility is to nurture, protect, and prepare her children for the independence of adulthood. Before she can accomplish this, she must first take care of herself. She has to insure that she’s stable enough to perform her duties as a mother. She may also choose to be a good mate, friend, daughter, sister, citizen, den mother, supporter of charitable causes, and on and on... But these roles are secondary. Once she gives birth, a woman’s primary responsibility is to be there for her children. This means to keep herself in good condition physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. That’s a pretty tall order! And it takes years to completely fill that order.
Children deserve nothing less.
My favorite definition of anxiety is: “Anytime we’re not in full control of a situation.” Not being in control makes you uncomfortable, right? Afraid, at some level. In fact, anxiety and frustration always represent fear.
Research by Dr. Bruce Lipton, a brilliant cellular biologist from Stanford University Medical Center, shows that at a core level, humans feel only two emotions: love and fear, which sit at opposite ends of a continuum. All other emotions consist of some mixture of these two. Frustration, for example, consists largely of fear with very little love attached. Anger is nearly all fear. Joy and happiness consist primarily of love. The human body and mind do not perform well in a state of fear. To function normally and be able to heal and recover from stress, injury, or illness, the cells of your body (and mind) must exist in what Lipton terms a love/growth state.
When you feel anger or frustration, it’s because you’re afraid of something. If your child darts out into the street, as soon as your panic subsides you’re likely to feel a burst of anger because the child ignored all your earlier warnings about never going into the street without looking both ways. That child could have been injured or killed, and you’re terrified that you are not in full control of their actions. What might happen next time? What if you’re not there?
 How do you feel when your daughter leaves her toys strewn all over the living room after you’ve asked a thousand times to please put them away when playtime is over? Or your son fails to brush his teeth or wash his hands, no matter how often you’ve instructed him to do so. Do you become frustrated? Angry? Feel helpless? Once again, you’re afraid that you either have no control, or are losing whatever control you’ve had in the past. What will your kids grow up to be if they refuse to listen to you? Will they survive to grow up? What if…? What if…?
How about the emotions of guilt, shame, resentment, sadness, bereavement or depression? Where do they come from? Same answer -- varying levels of fear. All negative emotions can be reduced to their most basic ingredient: fear of something.
Surely there’s no greater responsibility than that assumed by a mother. With this responsibility and accompanying challenges often comes anxiety. What does any responsible mother feel when her three year-old child refuses to eat properly for days on end? Or her six-month old runs a fever of 103 degrees in the middle of the night, screaming at the top of its lungs? (Of course, your pediatrician is attending a medical seminar that week.) How about the mother of twins, or three children under the age of twelve, all needing to be bathed, fed, dressed and driven to school or music class or dance lessons or gymnastics, soccer practice, etc? Heaven forbid if one has an unexpected visit to the emergency room!
What about the woman who’s spouse doesn’t help out because he’s always at work, or simply doesn’t understand what she does? Perhaps he goes off to work every morning, same as his father did, puts in his 8 hours, then stops by the gym for a workout to arrive home each evening promptly at 6:30 p.m. He finds it perfectly natural to expect his favorite dinner on the table, followed by a quiet, relaxing evening in order to prepare himself for the following day. Is there any chance that such a mother might experience more than an occasional hint of frustration? Perhaps suspect that her life is not fully under her control?
What happens if one or more of her children is a bit overactive, or just normally full of energy? Is this likely to snowball and spread to the others? Or perhaps one has a learning disability, ADHD, autism, diabetes, cerebral palsy or other special needs. How does one mother meet such demands? And what if funds are limited, since the added income of her outside job was sacrificed in order for mom to stay home with these children?
Maybe she does work outside the home as well, to help keep a roof over her loved ones’ heads. Many families today simply cannot survive financially unless both parents work outside the home. (Incidentally, how many times have you heard the question, “Do you work, or just stay home with the kids?” Give me a break! Independent studies have shown that a stay-at-home mom with two children under the age of 12 works the equivalent of 1-1/2 full time jobs. And that’s everyday, seven days a week, 365 days a year!)
 Does a typical mother love her job? Absolutely. Does she adore her children? Of course. Does she love her husband, her home and her family? No question about it. But might she also feel overwhelmed at times? Maybe become frustrated when things don’t go according to schedule or her best-laid plans? Might she become angry sometimes when the baby sitter doesn’t show up or call, or the pediatrician’s office forgets to notify her that her baby’s appointment has been moved up a week? Might she ever get really scared when the money simply isn’t there to make the rent or mortgage payment next month? Is there a possibility of feeling downright terrified that her children might not receive the education they deserve? Or sometimes, the food their little growing bodies require just to stay healthy and develop normally?
Let’s not even consider how she feels when her mother or unmarried sister or aunt (or mother-in-law) questions her meal plans, weight, housekeeping, or the way she disciplines her children.
WE can, and you’ll be amazed at how quickly you can feel better.
Quite frankly, we’re astounded that more mothers don’t suffer deep-seated anxiety, fear, frustration or depression. Or that more don’t drink or smoke, or take tranquilizers or sedatives or other anti-anxiety medications. Many mothers do use these substances. And while such crutches may temporarily cover up some of their symptoms, they do nothing to truly improve the situation or correct a parent’s state of mind. They do, however, change your brain chemistry and keep you in a perpetual mental fog. If you doubt this, try stopping them sometime and see how you feel.
It’s estimated that 50% of U.S. adults today take some form of daily anti-anxiety medication. In my opinion, based on many years of experience as a physician, this is an insane practice. And totally unnecessary. (I--Charles Smithdeal, M.D., C.Ht.--have retired from the practice of medicine. I now work exclusively as an Anxiety Relief Specialist.)
What about the single-parent mom taking on all the responsibilities mentioned above by herself, without a life partner? Is it humanly possible to do these things without feeling almost paralyzing levels of anxiety? Fear? Frustration?
Surprisingly, this answer is also an unqualified YES! In fact, it is not only possible, it’s now:
A) readily available
B) simple to arrange, and
C) quite affordable.
No. Anxiety Relief Techniques® does not include hypnosis. Dr Charles and Dr. Deborah Smithdeal are also American Board certified hypnotherapists, however, so we can provide hypnosis when requested for specific issues such as major weight loss or childhood-abuse traumas. We also provide each client with a stress-relief CD that includes a self-hypnosis track, should you choose to use it. This CD works extremely well in conjunction with Anxiety Relief Techniques®. (If hypnosis intrigues you, please review “What is Hypnotherapy?”)
YES!! (See *Guarantee* below for details.)
Anxiety Relief Techniques® quickly removes anxiety, fear, frustration and other negative emotions. Without medications. Safely. Effectively. And reliably. Notice I didn’t say that our technique teaches you how to cope with these feelings. I didn’t say we show you how to deny your uncomfortable feelings, or talk them to death, or learn to get in touch with and accept them. To repeat, Anxiety Relief Techniques® quickly REMOVES anxiety, fear, frustration, and other negative emotions. These emotions simply go away. In fact, our results are so good and so predictable that for a limited time, we are offering clients who suffer from maternal anxiety** a 100% money-back guarantee (see *Guarantee* at bottom of page for details.) We understand that people are sometimes afraid (more fear) to commit their hard-earned money for help when they’re not 100% certain it will work for them. Thus, we offer you this guarantee.
We enjoy helping people. Rest assured, however, it is not our intent to work for free. We can offer this guarantee only because our experience has proven that nearly every client of average or better intelligence who follows our step-by-step instructions, experiences significant relief during their first phone session. What’s more, 95% of our clients obtain COMPLETE RELIEF of their anxiety-driven issues within three 60-minute sessions, one week apart.
 We work by phone with clients across the United States and abroad (including some who live only blocks away.) The comment we hear most often following an initial phone session is: “THIS IS AMAZING. BEFORE WE BEGAN, I COULDN’T UNDERSTAND HOW IT COULD POSSIBLY WORK, BUT IT DOES! I FEEL BETTER ALREADY.”
Prior to each client’s initial phone consultation, we e-mail a detailed questionnaire so that we understand the exact issues to be addressed. Once we receive the responses to these questions, we e-mail an introduction to our method that explains its scientific basis: how and why it works so well, and the research that brought it about. The introduction also includes specific instructions for the client to follow PRIOR to the first session. This saves valuable time, so we “hit the ground running” and clients experience significant results DURING their initial session. We work one-on-one with you, proceeding very carefully through each step of our method until both you and we know beyond any doubt that the method is working for you. In other words, we make absolutely certain that you:
A) fully understand our method
B) are able to successfully apply it to your particular situation.
Still skeptical about phone sessions? Permit me to remind you of the 100% money-back guarantee mentioned above (see *Guarantee* at bottom of page for details.)
The majority of anxiety-driven issues can be resolved in three sessions. A few, such as a desired weight loss of greater than 30 lbs, may require more than three. Before beginning, we will quote specific fees for any issue likely to require more than three sessions.
Our standard three-session fee is $350, payable when your initial session is reserved. This $350 fee includes:
A) your group of three one-on-one phone sessions with Dr Charles or Dr. Deborah Smithdeal
B) supporting e-mails and instructional material during that time
C) an audio CD entitled “Instant Stress Relief.” We mail this CD via USPS and ask that you listen to it each night before going to sleep. The CD contains a valuable discussion of stress, a self-hypnosis track for those who desire to learn this technique, and a guided relaxation-visualization that most clients find extremely pleasant and helpful.
For the occasional person who doesn’t use e-mail, at a small additional charge we can exchange the above information by regular (USPS) mail; however, e-mail is far more efficient. You may prefer to have a computer-literate friend or relative print out the e-mailed material for you. Many UPS stores and mailing services also provide this service. All you need to do is read and understand what we send you. We will also review the material during your first session.
Microsoft founder Bill Gates once described e-mail as: “Business at the speed of thought.” Using e-mail and the telephone, we’re able to provide relief from your fear and anxiety at this same speed. Both Internet technology and our method are truly amazing. There was nothing like this available when you were growing up.
If you need still more information, please read about Anxiety Relief Techniques® and Distance Sessions.
Perhaps I should ask how much longer your kids can hang on, with their mom about to have a nervous breakdown on a daily basis. You’re their rock of Gibraltar, Mom. The stable influence your children so desperately need in their young lives. Are you doing your job?
Our method won’t make your house payment for you. Or stop a husband from drinking too much. Or fix a marriage, or drive your kids to their after-school activities. But it will remove your fear. And the stress and anxiety that drains your energy every single day and night. Anxiety Relief Techniques® literally collapses that fear. And perhaps for the first time in a long while, doing so will allow you to see things the way they really are, so you can make better judgments and decisions for yourself and your family. Removing fear from your life is like watching a dense fog clear from around your brain.
As their primary role model, when you take control of your emotions you also set a marvelous example for your children. This control can help enormously in your relationship with adults as well, including your spouse or significant other. But when you permit fears to distort your everyday thoughts and actions, you can count on living a scary and unfulfilling life. You also teach your children that the world is a place to fear. Can anybody grow up to be successful with such a limiting belief?
Ask yourself, Mom: “With all my anxiety and fears, how much fun am I to live with?” “What kind of example am I setting?”
Permit me to ask something else:
1. Have we identified an issue that you currently experience?
2. Have we explained why it presents such a devastating problem for you and your children?
3. Have we explained that our method removes anxiety, fear, and frustration?
4. Do you understand the things we explained?
5. Have we guaranteed* that should our method not work for you, it won’t cost you a dime?
6. Does this make sense to you?
Fair enough, Mom. The rest is up to you.
May God continue to bless you and your children.
Charles Smithdeal, M.D., C.Ht.
Deborah Smithdeal, Ph.D., C.Ht.
This special guarantee is restricted to mothers (or Mr. Moms, if this is the case) with children under the age of 16. With all the costs of raising children today, we understand how tight a family budget can become. We also understand that people are sometimes afraid to commit their hard-earned money for assistance when they’re not 100% certain it will work for them. We want to do our part to help all children grow up in a loving, stable environment. Thus, we offer this guarantee: During your first session, we will teach you a specific correction for your issues and permit you to experience the results overnight. If you do not believe, following overnight reflection, that you are significantly improved or that your particular issues will benefit greatly from our work together, we will cancel your remaining sessions and fully refund your entire fee. This is a one-time guarantee, and you must make this determination within 24 hours of your first session. Should you choose to continue working with us, no refund will be available thereafter.
**Maternal anxiety: This term refers to the anxiety, fear, and frustration so often suffered by men or women charged with the responsibility of raising children who are below the age of 16.
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